Navigating Anger as a God-Given Emotion

Key Scriptures

"Be angry, and do not sin": do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place (foothold) to the devil.” Ephesians 4:26-27

“This you know, my beloved brethren. But let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.” James 1:19-20

Start talking. Find a conversation starter for your group.

• What did you learn about anger after hearing this week’s message?
• When have you seen evidence of an “anger factory” in your life or someone else’s? What were the results?

Start thinking. Ask a question to get your group thinking.

• What are some of the most difficult aspects of James 1:19-20 to carry out during conflict?
• What is the difference between anger and aggression in your mind?
• Think of a time when you responded with wisdom and patience instead of anger. What happened?

Start sharing. Choose a question to create openness.

• What has uncontrolled anger cost your relationships?
• How many times have you allowed your emotions to control you instead of controlling your emotions? What do you think these particular situations trigger that emotion in you?
• What methods can you use to have better control over your anger and emotions as a whole?

Start praying. Be bold and pray with power.

Lord, I thank you for creating us wonderfully and according to your plans and purposes, which is good. I pray for direction and guidance in times of trials and tribulations to use my emotions to benefit others and show love no matter how that looks or seems to others. I thank you for your steady presence, and I wish to be a light in a dark place. May you use anger to show love and protect me from bitterness and retaliation. May I stand on your name, our rock, and stand up against sin and things against you, oh Lord. May I strap up in the Armor of God every morning and fight with faith and prayer. In Jesus’ mighty name, Amen!

Start doing. Commit to a step and live it out this week.

Sometimes it is best to think before saying something in anger. When conflict arises, consider these five questions this week while giving yourself time to react:

T: Is it truthful? Is what I’m about to say the truth?

H: Is it helpful? Or will it simply harm the other person?

I: Is it inspirational? Does it build up, or does it tear down?

N: Is it necessary? If it’s not necessary, why do I need to say it?

K: Is it kind?

THINK before you speak. Reflect before you react. It’ll slow down your anger every time. Get into the word until the word gets into you

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